Monthly Archives: March 2015

Daily Deeper Special: Flash Pop!

 

It’s no secret that I’m a huge fan of Go Deeper Press. They’re one of the most interesting and challenging publishers of literary porn on the market today. When they put out a call for their new feature – The Deeper Daily, I was quick to send a story over.

“Flash Pop!” is one of those stories that wrote itself. At this point, I’ve pretty much established that my joy is in editing a story, but “Flash Pop!” came out whole and nearly finished on the first draft. I love this little story and was really proud when Lana Fox and Angela Tavares, the brilliant minds behind Go Deeper Press, said they’d like to run it.

It’s over at the Deeper Daily right now, so click HERE to check it out. As with all of the Daily Deeper stories, it’s only up for seven days so catch it while you can!

Here’s a little taste.

Excerpt: Flash Pop!

Deke. Who the fuck has a name like Deke? But it suited him, from the gleam in his devil-dark eyes to his rattlesnake boots. Over the next six months she’d come to appreciate the eyes, the boots and every filthy inch in-between.

One night a week, Debi’s mom watched the kids so she could have “me time”, something she got very little of since her fucker of an ex left her for a stripper like the cliché he was. More than a year later she was still pretty wound up about it. She kind of thought of Deke as therapy.

“Me time”, so far as her mom knew, consisted of Debi going for drinks at the Macaroni Bar with her non-existent girlfriends. “Me Time”, in reality, meant meeting Deke at the Pak ‘n Buy so he could fuck her in his Camaro.

She looked forward to “me time” every week.

Happy Sunday, everyone!

xx.M

The Liebster Award: Sharing the Love

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I got a lovely surprise today from a writer / blogger I’ve come to adore. @ht_honey caught my attention last year when she was lovely enough to let me use two of her Sinful Sunday photos as inspiration for two separate stories (The Second Letter and Drive), and her blog, Happy Come Lucky, continues to engage and inspire me, even more now than it did when I was first fortunate enough to find it.

Anyway, the lovely surprise I got was that Honey nominated me for a Liebster Award. The conditions of accepting the award are that you answer some questions, offer up some little known facts about yourself and nominate a handful of other bloggers who have less than 1000 followers. You can read the full rules over at Honey’s place, and while you’re there, please do take a look at her answers to Marie Rebelle‘s questions. There’s some great stuff in there!

And now, for My Answers to Honey’s Questions:

1. What three words would you choose to describe your blogging persona?

Curious, introspective and measured.

2. Is there something that you have been scared or nervous to post on your blog, but you have done it anyway? What was it, and how did it work out?

Yes! I get twitchy over any post that has to do with my body. My post, Small Breasts, was a bit nerve-wracking, though less so than my Pussy Pride Post. That said, the posts I’ve done on vulnerability and jealousy have scared me far more, but I’m glad I did them. A lot of people contacted me after, confessing to feel similarly difficult emotions and I love that I was not only able to connect with people over those experiences, but to offer a bit of support too, even if it’s only to say, “hey, you’re not the only one who feels this stuff.”

3. What is your favourite drink for when you are relaxed and enjoying yourself?

Tea! Or bourbon. Or champagne. Always separately though ;)

4. Would you describe yourself as impulsive or a planner? How does your approach to blogging fit in with that?

I’d say I’m impulsive planner. I have a list of topics several pages long and I tend to schedule them out a month ahead, but then there are weeks, like this one with Hollow Places, when something grabs me so I run with the impulse.

5. Which body part fascinates you and why?

The brain. It is absolutely the more underrated erogenous zone. Plus, people fascinate me and I believe that hearts and souls aside, our brains are the seat of our humanity, biologically speaking.

6. Which memes do you take part in?

I just took part in my first memes last week and did a two for one! I did my first Wicked Wednesday and Kink of the Week with a post on corsets! I love both memes and am looking forward to participating in those and others more, work allowing. I’m also a really passionate supporter of Sinful Sunday.

7.  If a genie offered you three blogging/publishing wishes, what would they be?

I think they can all be summed up in one major wish – to make a living from fiction, blogging, articles and essays. That’s on the practical end of things. On the creative / idealistic side, I want to reach as many people as I can. There’s so much judgement around sex and sexuality. I just want to provide alternative ways of looking at ourselves, our relationships and where we are as a culture.

8. Bath or shower and why?

Shower, unless I’m with someone else. Then it would be shower or bath depending on how much time we had. If I’m on my own though, shower definitely. I’m tall so most standard bathtubs aren’t terribly comfortable, plus I get restless. I’m not great at hanging out and soaking unless there’s conversation or sexy stuff going on.

9. Do you have a life mantra/motto? What is it?

I have two, and they’re actually very similar to yours. The first is Run at what it is you fear. My dad taught me to fight when I got scared, and that impulse has carried forward. While I’m definitely not getting into physical altercations, I’m much more comfortable facing the difficult thing than running from it.

The second is really just two words – Empathy and compassion. They’re more of a reminder to do as little harm as possible. They’re wound up with Know thyself. I find that, the better I understand myself, the better able I am to keep a proper perspective and act with empathy and compassion. It’s an ideal, which means I don’t always make it, but it reminds me to try.

10. What is one of your guilty pleasures?

I don’t have guilty pleasures. I just have pleasures ;)

11. How did you choose the name of your blog?

When I was first putting Erotica. Sex. Culture. together, it was just called Malin James (my pseudonym) with no further subtitle. It didn’t seem like enough, because my name said nothing about my interests or concerns, so I tacked on the subtitle and have been very happy with it since.

Eleven Facts About Me:

Quick confession – I’m lifting the first 7 from a Facebook meme that’s been circulating, but the last 4 are fresh and hot off the press!

1. I went to one of NYU’s acting conservatories and am a classically trained actor. Theater only (sorry film – you never coaxed me away).

2. My favorite roles were in The Seagull (Masha), Twelfth Night (Olivia) and Fool for Love (May). I still have my lines memorized from all three.

3. If I could choose any random talent, it would be singing. Hands down. I would love to be able to sing for the sheer, beautiful joy of it.

4. I have an MA in medieval literature and was in the middle of applying to PhD programs when I realized there just aren’t that many jobs for medievalists in the U.S. so I reconsidered and became a librarian instead.

5. Being a librarian was not as satisfying as being a medievalist, nor was it as satisfying as being a writer is. Being a writer is the most satisfying thing I’ve ever done.

6. I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 19. Once I did, I made up for a *lot* of lost time.

7. Hot weather makes me massively cranky. I have opposite of Seasonal Affective Disorder and would be glad to live where it was gray and rainy 9 months out of the year if I could.

8. I’ve been non-monogamous since I was 21, and I realized I was bisexual some time in my teens. Both happened with very little fanfare or stress, possibly a side effect of growing up in San Francisco.

9. I’m atheist and can’t remember ever being anything else despite 12 years of Catholic school. I try not to be a jerk about it though – I think faith in a higher power must be wonderful and quite comforting. I’ve just never had it.

10. I love vintage and boutique lingerie. I can’t afford the stuff, but I love looking at it.

11. I would rather have books more than anything else. My love of lingerie pales in comparison to my love of books. I fucking love them and have fetishized them to the point of having them stacked all over the place in little totem piles. They make me happy.

Paying it Forward:

And now, for my nomination! I’d like to nominate the very intriguing erotica writer, Rachel Woe. She’s fairly new on the scene, but we share pages in this year’s Best Women’s Erotica, and her story, “The Art Teacher”, stood out as one of the strongest in a very strong collection. I think she’s one to watch and I’d love for more people to find her and her work.

There are a lot of other writers I’d love to nominate but many of them have already gotten the nod, so I’m going to keep it to one. As for questions, I loved Honey’s so much that I think I’ll ask the same ones.

xx.M

Bloglovin’

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Hey everyone! Just a quick bit of news. You can now follow News & Reviews on Bloglovin’. Just click the pretty, pouting, Bloglovin’ icon in my sidebar to follow News & Reviews, or go straight to the feed by clicking HERE.

You can also follow my main site, Erotica. Sex. Culture. by clicking the equally pretty, bare-breasted (oh, la la!) icon in my sidebar there, or going straight to that Bloglovin feed by clicking HERE. Or, you could live dangerously and follow both, as the sites are on two separate feeds.

For those of you who aren’t familiar with Bloglovin, it’s one of my favorite RSS readers. While it’s been pretty well established in the vanilla world for awhile, it’s only just recently started gaining momentum with sex bloggers. Click HERE to check it out, and while you’re there, please do feel free to check me out ;)

xx.M

Pillow Talk Secrets: Taboo in Erotica

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It’s time for another Pillow Talk Secrets. This time we’re talking about taboos in erotica, a topic I could dig into and spend a month talking about. Happily, Jade and Tamsin were of the same mind. Enjoy the excerpt below or, if you’d prefer, click HERE to go to the Pillow Talk blog to read the whole thing in it’s entirety. 

On a side note, I’m also really proud that this is the first proper post to appear on News & ReviewsThis site is meant to promote work that I’m proud of, and I am nothing if not proud of my work with Tamsin and Jade. From now on, I’ll be posting our excerpts and any relevant Pillow Talk news here too. 

And now, enough from me. It’s time to talk about taboos in erotica, from underage sex to bestiality. It’s a huge subject with enough to discuss for five episodes, but we do our best to take a bite out of the elephant, (in a completely consensual, non-literal sort of way) so, without further ado, I give you…

Pillow Talk Secrets

Malin: Hello ladies, how are you both doing this fine day?

Jade: Great, thank you. How are you both?

Tamsin: I’m very well – we have the sunniest day here and it’s positively balmy! A bit of a shock to the system!

J: Oh, same here! I’ve got the loveliest glare on my computer screen. ;)

M: Ah, yes! My relationship to the sun isn’t quite so friendly, but I’m always happy for those who love it…. So, we’ve been thinking about discussing taboo in erotica for awhile. Shall we tackle that today?

T: Yes, let’s. It’s an interesting subject. Every publisher has a list of taboo topics – incest, bestiality, rape/non consensual sex, underage sex and so on. It’s interesting that some subjects are taboo because the acts are actually illegal – necrophilia, for example – while others are widely held to be taboo on the grounds of taste, such as scat or watersports. But that begs the question, should publishers be acting as arbiters of taste in this way?

M: I think that’s a great place to start, Tamsin. I like that you brought up the fact that “taboo” covers a lot of things, from serious consent issues (like rape and pedophilia) to different kinks and sexual tastes. It strikes me that putting rape in the same general categories as two teens having consensual sex is a bit disingenuous, but that’s how many mainstream publishers handle the issue. Better safe than sorry, I suppose, but it feels like a slippery slope. After all, rape is not the same thing as a consensual golden shower…

J: Right. And then we have lighter (and not necessarily illegal) taboos like the “dreaded infidelity.” Oh dear…

M: Exactly. Some acts are simply more taboo than others. Cheating in erotica (and certainly romance) is taboo, but you can get away with it, while incest is a much harder sell in mainstream publishing…unless you’re George R.R. Martin, of course.

T: I find the whole cheating thing a bit weird. This seems to be a reader taboo rather than a publisher taboo – and why not have it in a story if the cheater gets their comeuppance?

J: I agree – but it seems that, to increase readership, publishers follow the tendency. This is very strange to me, since it’s actually such a common event in real life. Plus, cheating is not necessarily a one-time thing for characters – often there’s so much more depth to it.

T: I’ve never seen it on a publisher’s list of no-nos.

M: I don’t think I have either. It might just be one that writers (and readers) shy away from, particularly in the romance / erotic romance market.

J: Maybe because we have to keep our good guys and girls looking good?

M: Possibly…personally, I’m more interested in seeing people be people, which means bad / grey area behavior, but that’s definitely not something everyone wants.

T: Actually, this whole discussion makes me want to run off and write a hot cheating story in which the cheating heroine always gets away with it! (Actually, I have had one in mind for a while!)

M: Ha! Yes! And I would read that!

J: I wrote one a long time ago that’s still awaiting some tender touch-up…it’s got the hint of some sort of affair going on, and I’ve never quite decided if I want to keep that or cut it. Time will tell, I suppose. It’s definitely not the taboo that the others are, though, for sure.

M: My story in Chemical (se)X is all about the dynamic in an affair. I guess it all depends…. Okay, so now, I’d love to actually tackle a taboo Tamsin brought up in a Skype – the difficulty with underage protagonists…

If you’d like to read the rest, click HERE to go directly to the Pillow Talk blog. Thanks for stopping by!

xx.M

News & Reviews

Hi everyone! I’ve been wanting to impose some order on my blog for awhile now because it’s expanded more than I ever thought it would. Originally, I’d intended it to be a place to post book reviews and publishing news for the erotica portion of my writing. I should have realized that if I gave myself a forum, I’d want to say more.

"Pin Up with Newspaper" by Zoe Mozert Blotter

“Pin Up with Newspaper” by Zoe Mozert Blotter

Since then, my blog has become a place where I post on topics that catch my interest, sometimes in very personal ways. As it grew, it became something other than what I’d originally intended – a fact for which I’m incredibly grateful. It’s become an ongoing project that I love and fully intend to develop, but that left me with an awkward gap.

I still needed a place where I could share book reviews, news, updates and and other things of a more promotional nature. More importantly, I wanted a separate space where I could also promote the excellent work being done by friends and colleagues. So, with the help of the ever-patient @DomSigns, I set up this subdomain.

Unlike Erotica. Sex. Culture., News & Reviews will only receive updates when I have a book review or news to share, but I intend for it to always be up-to-date. There will be information about my work here, as well as information on projects that I just happen to be excited about. And, as always, while this is a promotional site, everything I endorse here will be evaluated honestly. I won’t tell you I love something if I don’t. That’s just not how I roll, regardless of where I’m posting.

And speaking of where I’m posting, I’m leaving all of the old reviews and promotional posts up on my main site (for the time being, at least). Moving forward, you’ll find all of the new stuff here.

So that’s it – all the news that fits to print (so far). Please do keep going to my main site for our regularly scheduled service. In the meantime, I’ll post here as soon as I’ve got something awesome to share. Thanks for stopping by, and hope to see you back soon!

xx.M